What Are Coffin Pallbearers? Roles, Traditions & What You Need to Know
When organising a funeral, one of the most symbolic and meaningful roles is that of the pallbearer — the person (or group) who carries or escorts the coffin. This role is not only practical but also carries emotional and cultural significance.
At eziFunerals, we help families across Australia plan meaningful farewells by providing clarity, choice, and trusted advice. In this guide, we explain what pallbearers do, who can be one, and what’s involved in carrying a coffin with dignity and respect.
What Is a Pallbearer?
A pallbearer is a person who helps carry or escort a coffin during a funeral procession — typically from the hearse to the service location, and then to the burial or cremation site.
Pallbearers are usually chosen from among the deceased’s closest family and friends. Being asked to serve as a pallbearer is a sign of great honour and trust, often reflecting the strength of the relationship shared with the person who has passed away.
Types of Pallbearers
There are two main types of pallbearers:
1. Active Pallbearers
These are the individuals who physically lift and carry the coffin. A full team typically includes 6 to 8 people, depending on the size and weight of the casket.
2. Honorary Pallbearers
These are individuals who are acknowledged during the funeral but do not carry the coffin. This role is ideal for elderly relatives, people with limited mobility, or anyone whom the family wishes to recognise symbolically.
Who Can Be a Pallbearer?
Anyone can serve as a pallbearer, provided they are physically able to handle the responsibility safely. Traditionally, pallbearers were male, but today many families choose female pallbearers or mixed groups, depending on the person’s wishes and cultural practices.
Common choices include:
- Siblings
- Adult children
- Close friends
- Colleagues or club members
- Grandchildren (if old enough and able)
At eziFunerals, we encourage families to select pallbearers based on emotional closeness, not tradition alone.
What Does a Pallbearer Do?
Before the Service:
- Arrive early to receive instructions from the funeral director
- Typically meet near the hearse or chapel entrance
During the Service:
- Lift the coffin from the hearse and carry it to the front of the chapel or service location
- At burial, carry the coffin to the graveside
- At cremation, escort the coffin into the chapel and place it on the catafalque (platform)
After the Service:
- In some services, pallbearers may also be asked to carry the coffin back to the hearse or assist in lowering the coffin into the grave (if applicable)
Pallbearers are usually guided and supported by the funeral director to ensure everything is done smoothly, respectfully, and safely.
How Heavy Is a Coffin?
A standard coffin can weigh anywhere between 40 and 100 kilograms, depending on the material. When you add the body, the total weight may range from 120 to 200 kilograms.
This is why there are typically six pallbearers — three on each side — to distribute the weight evenly. Lifting must be done carefully and in unison, following guidance from the funeral staff.
Do Pallbearers Need Special Training?
No formal training is required, but the funeral director will give instructions on the day, including:
- How to lift the coffin safely
- When to step forward
- How to walk in sync with other pallbearers
The key is to remain calm, respectful, and coordinated with the rest of the group. It’s perfectly okay to ask questions before the procession begins.
What Should Pallbearers Wear?
Dress respectfully — usually in formal, dark attire unless the family has requested otherwise (e.g. wearing a specific colour or theme).
Typical attire includes:
- Dark suit or dress
- Closed shoes
- Minimal accessories
- Subtle colours or patterns
Some families may ask pallbearers to wear matching pins, flowers, or ribbons as a tribute.
Can You Hire Professional Pallbearers?
Yes. Some families prefer to hire professional pallbearers through the funeral director — especially if:
- There are not enough suitable or willing people
- The family wants a uniform, experienced team
- A large, formal funeral is being held
Professional pallbearers are often used in state funerals, military services, or when tradition calls for ceremonial formality.
If you’re unsure, eziFunerals can help you compare providers and arrange this option.
Cultural and Religious Traditions
Different cultures and faiths have unique practices around pallbearing. For example:
- Christian funerals often include family pallbearers and a formal procession
- Jewish funerals may prohibit metal in the coffin and involve male pallbearers
- Hindu funerals often involve sons or male relatives carrying the body
- Pacific Islander and African communities may have elaborate pallbearing rituals and music
If your family follows a specific tradition, discuss it with your funeral director or compare providers through eziFunerals who understand your cultural needs.
Tips for Pallbearers
- Follow instructions from the funeral director at all times
- Stay in sync with fellow pallbearers when lifting and walking
- Keep a straight posture and walk slowly and calmly
- Use both hands and avoid sudden movements
- Take breaks if needed — your health and safety are important
Being a pallbearer is both a physical and emotional task. It’s okay to feel nervous — but remember, your presence is a powerful act of love and respect.
How eziFunerals Can Help
At eziFunerals, we make it easier for families to plan every part of the funeral — including decisions around pallbearers and the procession.
Use our platform to:
- Compare local funeral directors across Australia
- Request quotes and view service inclusions
- Find providers who support cultural traditions
- Access checklists and funeral planning resources
We work for you, not funeral homes — so you get honest advice and full transparency, every time.
Honour with Grace: Pallbearing Made Simple with eziFunerals
Serving as a pallbearer is a meaningful role that requires strength, coordination, and care. Whether you’re carrying the coffin or honouring someone as an honorary pallbearer, your presence matters deeply.
With eziFunerals, you can plan with clarity — and choose the right funeral service provider to support you every step of the way.
Visit eziFunerals.com.au to start planning or comparing local funeral directors today.
Because every goodbye deserves dignity, and every gesture of love should be supported.
